somebody help me? - w4m (not here)

"There is a pattern in my life, these men tell me they love me without even so much as a real date. I am easy to fall in love with apparently, I must weave some sort of magic that pulls them in. See the thing is, they don't fall in love with me necessarily. It seems like they fall in love with an idea, or my image? These men don't know anything about me, what I like, my favorite things or how I think. They fall in love with what they think I am and it turns me right off. So I am confused because I don't know what love is really supposed to be about.

I want a partner not an admirer.

What am I doing wrong?"